Being Independent and Responsible

How do you become independent and responsible for the success in your life?

Today marks a day in my history.  My youngest daughter is walking to school with her friend on her own.

She is learning to be independent from me and is starting to become responsible for her life.

I know it is small scale, but it is a start for her.  Our ability to be responsible and independent does not start after our 20’s, it starts way back in our childhood.  It is here that with support and safety one can learn to try things out, make mistakes and have the courage to go out there and try again.  If you feel that you didn’t get that environment… you are not doomed.  You can learn at any stage of your life… every day is a good day to begin to make positive changes to your life.

What is it to be independent? By definition to be independent is to be someone that is not influenced by others in matters of opinion and can think and act for themselves.  They are typically people that like autonomy and are free to make decisions.

To be responsible on the other hand means to be ‘able to respond’.  When making a decision if you have the power to make that decision and you are able to respond and make it happen, the you can be responsible.  How often in life people promise to do something, but they don’t have the all the power to make it happen?  They are not completely responsible to make that promise.  When you expect someone to be responsible, ask yourself are they able to respond?  Can they deliver the decision that has been made?

When we look at the two words together, we have someone who makes a decision and will not be swayed by others and is able to act out that decision.

My daughter certainly is both of these.  She has been campaigning for weeks to get me to agree to let her walk with her friends …. and today she succeeded.  She made a decision was not swayed to think differently by me and was able to make it happen.

What is it that you want to have happen and what resources and beliefs do you hold about that?

How do you become more independent and responsible from today?  After all it is your life, and you want to live it with a feeling of fulfilment and not regret.

What can you do to improve?

  1. Read a book and learn more.
  2. Start a journal so that you can understand yourself your triggers and limitations to events.
  3. Read my book on iUnderstandMe
  4. Write out what you want and then in the next column what can you do to make it happen.
  5. Attend a course or seminar where you can personally develop yourself .

Explore and enjoy!

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Who rules your life – you or your emotions?

You may well be thinking, “that’s a strange question to ask, of course I rule my life!”

For the majority of people that is not the case. Research claims that up to 95% of people live an unconscious life, this means that they generally react to what going on around them, without taking the time to think about how or why they are reacting in that manner.

We all know what emotions are – happiness, sadness, joy, and pride to name a few.

But have you ever thought about it any deeper than that.

What exactly are the point of emotions?

Emotions are your body’s way of communicating to you – sometimes it feels pleasant and sometimes it feels uncomfortable. It doesn’t mean that you have to respond to it immeditately, but it is wise to pay attention to it though.

So why does your body use emotions to communicate with you?

As you may be aware there are two parts to your mind. There is the conscious and unconscious. The conscious is the part that you are aware of, it is the part where you run through your thoughts and you process ideas. Your unconscious deals with all the other stuff. It deals with your breathing and running the body, the actual processes that go on behind learned behaviour, and filtering all the information that is around you. When needed it then passes what you need to know to your conscious mind.

The amount of information that the unconscious can process is approx 2,000 000 bits per second, whilst the conscious, can only deal with a fraction of that, around 126 bits per second. The conscious mind is limited to the amount of information it takes in, otherwise we would never achieve anything. If we identified and notice every tiny things that going on around us it would take an hour or so just to take two steps and we would feel overwhelmed.

What this means is that the unconscious has a lot more information at its disposal. If there is something that we need to be aware of, to keep it simple it will make you aware through an emotion.

Let’s take a look at two emotions so you can see what I mean.

  • Anger is just a message to say that something that you hold as important like a rule or expectation, has not be meet or has been broken by someone else or by yourself.
  • Fear is anticipation that something is going to happen, and asks whether you are totally prepared and ready for it?

So next time your emotions starts talking to you, stop, before you react unconsciously, and think about it for just a few seconds.

What is this emotion trying to tell you or what do you need to be aware off?

Then take action in a controlled manor that will create results that are beneficial to you.

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How do you get your child to want to do well at school?

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