Being Independent and Responsible

How do you become independent and responsible for the success in your life?

Today marks a day in my history.  My youngest daughter is walking to school with her friend on her own.

She is learning to be independent from me and is starting to become responsible for her life.

I know it is small scale, but it is a start for her.  Our ability to be responsible and independent does not start after our 20’s, it starts way back in our childhood.  It is here that with support and safety one can learn to try things out, make mistakes and have the courage to go out there and try again.  If you feel that you didn’t get that environment… you are not doomed.  You can learn at any stage of your life… every day is a good day to begin to make positive changes to your life.

What is it to be independent? By definition to be independent is to be someone that is not influenced by others in matters of opinion and can think and act for themselves.  They are typically people that like autonomy and are free to make decisions.

To be responsible on the other hand means to be ‘able to respond’.  When making a decision if you have the power to make that decision and you are able to respond and make it happen, the you can be responsible.  How often in life people promise to do something, but they don’t have the all the power to make it happen?  They are not completely responsible to make that promise.  When you expect someone to be responsible, ask yourself are they able to respond?  Can they deliver the decision that has been made?

When we look at the two words together, we have someone who makes a decision and will not be swayed by others and is able to act out that decision.

My daughter certainly is both of these.  She has been campaigning for weeks to get me to agree to let her walk with her friends …. and today she succeeded.  She made a decision was not swayed to think differently by me and was able to make it happen.

What is it that you want to have happen and what resources and beliefs do you hold about that?

How do you become more independent and responsible from today?  After all it is your life, and you want to live it with a feeling of fulfilment and not regret.

What can you do to improve?

  1. Read a book and learn more.
  2. Start a journal so that you can understand yourself your triggers and limitations to events.
  3. Read my book on iUnderstandMe
  4. Write out what you want and then in the next column what can you do to make it happen.
  5. Attend a course or seminar where you can personally develop yourself .

Explore and enjoy!